You are a beautiful person!
Embrace your uniqueness and soar!
You are a beautiful person!
Embrace your uniqueness and soar!
I had a dream last night about rape!
Not of me being raped but women I know, have known since high school and those who went to school with my son and other women I know.
It was a very disturbing dream!
I hate these kinds of dreams for to me there is no point in them except the enemy messing with my sleep; however, the more I’ve pondered on this subject this morning the more I wonder if I’m to share my words…again.
I’ve been criticized for sharing too much, for being so open yet I know God has called me to be transparent of what I’ve experienced in hopes of showing others who may have suffered similar experiences that there is hope in Him!
Rape is sexual intercourse, either with the man’s penis or some object inserted into the victim, against the other person’s will!
With regard to my experiences in my childhood I’ve used the words assault, molested, violated but today let’s call it what it really is/was: RAPE!!!
And rape can be carried out by women!
Rape is having some object, human or not, forced inside any of your openings against your will!
Rape is wrong!
Rape can happen to little girls and boys, women and men!
I truly can’t count the times I’ve been raped from before I did not have memories up to my adulthood! It was wrong!
Rape is about the rapist being a bully!
Rape is about the rapist humiliating the one being raped!
Rape is about the rapist needing the power over another!
Rape is wrong!!
Some of my rapists are dead and gone, others are not!
In my dream I had a tazer like object but when I touched these people who were raping they just dissolved! How cool is that!!!
It has taken boat loads of prayers, tears, hard work and quality counselors to help me get past my former horrific experiences! I praise God He has me in the palm of His hand. I don’t know why I had to go through what I did but I can guarantee you if it was to help one person I will share my story anywhere I can!
You can heal from rape, from abuse!
You must be willing to fight the fight to overcome and rise above it!
I share a lot of these experiences in my book, Secrets in the Hollers, as well as the new one, Secrets Exposed!
It is high time to tell the secrets!
I hope you will stand with me in stating that there should be #secretsnomore !
I’d love to hear your story!
You are not alone and someone does truly care about you!
I am a #warriorrisingup !!!
Check our my facebook page at: Author Pamela Richards Woodall
I am available for speaking engagements and training opportunities working to help heal the hurting from various abusive situations!
You do not have to bear the pain alone!
Hope your Wednesday is a happy one!
Happy Friday y’all!
Make it a good one.
Be kind to yourself!
Don’t demand something of yourself you wouldn’t demand of others!
Take deep breathes through out the day for it helps to cleanse your lungs as well as your soul!
Enjoy the moment instead of reaching for tomorrow!
Live in the here and now!
Do something nice for you today!
Remember you are valued!
You are worthy!
You are a beautiful human!
You are wanted!
You are needed!
You….yes you…are such a beautiful individual!!
You have purpose and value!
You have a great destiny!
You are precious in His eyes!
You were born with a purpose, a reason!
There is One who longs to walk with you!
He can give you peace in a chaotic world!
His sweet love!
I #amwriting on Secrets Exposed, part 2 in the Secret series.
This series exposes those dirty little secrets that often go on behind closed doors No One wants to really talk about! This series is written as a work of fiction based on a true story….mine!
Noone should ever have to live through fear and abuse and shame and pain and more!
Especially our precious children!
If you’d like to purchase book 1, Secrets in the Hollers, in book form you may contact me at Oaktreepub@yahoo.com. Or you may purchase one for your e-reader at Amazon Kindle.
I am also available to help meet your training needs on various topics including surviving traumatic child abuse, healing from abuse and domestic violence issues.
I look forward to hearing from you!!
Some days are like….
Storms Rollin in!
and so on…..
Other days be like….
Not all days are the same. They come. They go.
One thing for sure is to learn that this too shall pass. It may sometimes take more than a day but it will pass…it will fade away!
I’m so thankful in the middle of my yulk days and my good days I’m never alone!
He never leaves me nor forsake me.
I must learn good self care and shore up my healthy boundaries!
Have you ever had days where you seem to wrestle with some unseen force just to barely keep your head above water? It’s almost like some giant hand is trying ever so hard to push you under the water!
Have you felt surely that you were gonna drown in the depths of despair?
Have you ever tried ever so hard to get away from your own self because of the many thoughts that are fighting one over the other to get to the forefront of your mind?
Personally I often struggle with chaotic thoughts, even stinking thinking. I grew up in an abusive, dysfunctional home which created a perfect cesspool of an opportunity for stinkin’ thinkin’! I learned how to think unwisely as a child. I learned how to think unbalanced, unhealthy. Now I am learning how to think more in a healthy manner! But it’s not always easy, well at least for me anyway!
As an abused child I learned, conditioned if you will, at a very early age to try to think one, two or ever five steps ahead of a situation so I could possibly avoid yet another attack; I learned how to plot various situations in my head to figure out what I should do if this or that happened. When we learn that behavior as a child it makes deep ruts in our brains that if we don’t make the effort to get out of those ruts as an adult could very well end up being our grave! I don’t know about you but I didn’t want that!
So I’m learning to change my stinkin’ thinkin’ by creating new paths in my brain; healthier ways of thinking! Stinkin thinkin only serves to kill, steal and destroy! I want life and life more abundantly!
So what am I learning to do to change that behavior, to change that old way of thinking?
1. Identify Old Patterns
It’s taken me may years but I am realizing I am making progress in this area. I’m learning to quickly identify old patterns that have before caused me pain, grief, depression, anxiety and so much more!
Actually just this week I had an experience where I’d wandered around in this funk, this stinkin’ thinkin’, letting it suck the life outta me like two ticks and no dog! I allowed myself to get into a major depression from listening to the lies, the assaults on my thinking of how bad I am or how I’d never amount to anything or any of a hundred more accusations! While talking with my sweet husband later on I realized that the voice I heard were very familiar from my past, even all the way back to my childhood. Oh wow…revelation!
And as he so sweetly reminded me, “Babe, that’s not your Father’s voice!” (Meaning our Heavenly Father) And he was and is right!
Identify that voice.
2. Assess if the message is helpful or hurtful
So as the day that I heard and listened to the stinkin’ thinkin’ wore on I realized that the words I was hearing in my head were actually giving me a headache. Well that’s certainly not a good thing now is it?! In fact it was hurtful!
By mid-afternoon I was not only fighting depression, I was battling a major headache! I had to make some changes.
So I got out and went for a short walk to hopefully clear my head. I got a shower and actively began to change my way of thinking, change what I was listening to. And it did make a difference!
I was sad to admit all that time I spent listening to those words I’d wasted precious time I would not get back. I had allowed myself to be duped into believing the stinkin thinkin that had plagued my mind for most of that day!
3. Create a new strategy
Remember those ruts I mentioned earlier? I learned to view them as a cow path down to the pond from across the hill round the field. That cow will take the path of least resistance, much like we humans often do, and in doing so by going the same route over and over again, pretty soon a rut begins to form. Oh at first it’s merely a faint path hard to make out but after months and years of walking the same way day after day it becomes more clearly defined.
So in order to get out of this rut I must create a new plan of action, a new strategy! I must choose on purpose to think differently. I’m learning to recognize the accusing voice much quicker! And not only to recognize when I’m being lied to; I must replace those lies with His truth! And in order to know what that is I must discover it! I must search out His truth and what He says about me!
This all takes effort on my part but if I want to grow, if I want to take responsibility for my life, as a healthy adult should, then I must be willing to do so!
You too can do something similar.
If you are fighting stinkin thinkin there is positive changes availiable. I don’t know about you but I’ve decided that life is just way too precious and too short, to spend the rest of my years beating myself up. I am going to adjust my thinking. I am creating a new cow path so to speak. I do not wanta live in a rut the rest of my life!
No! I’m going to explore, discover who I am, who He wants me to be!
I’m so thankful that I’m learning to identify that voice and access whether or not those words I hear in my head is helpful or hurtful then create a new strategy! Good growth is possible!
Be kind to yourself during this transition process. It’s not easy to climb up out of a rut you’ve been walking in for years. You’ll need to be strong to climb up over and out but you can do it! One step at a time! One day at a time!
There is great hope!
Enjoy your journey and embrace your adventures!
You are not alone!
I miss you this morning!
I hear the thunder rumbling overhead and I wonder what it would sound like if I were listening with you. I know there would be a difference!
I love writing!
Today was a stormy one so couldn’t work outside. Instead I was able to do some much needed writing on book 2 of the Secret series, Secrets Exposed.
The other night I woke up from a dream about my characters and realized there’d be a twist with them as I’d never allowed Alex to share about his family. Right now he’s a mystery. His family is a mystery. And that mystery will aid in writing the next few chapters.
Secrets in the Hollers was the beginning! My beginning! My beginning to writing and sharing truth in a fictional setting.
You can read my book for the enjoyment or as a resource book for counselors, pastors, doctors, etc!
I write about the various secrets that go on behind closed doors.
I write about the hope I’ve found and long to share that with you!
I also do public speaking.
I’d love to hear your story!
You can email me at
Today I wish all the fathers in my life a wonderful day. I wish I had the warm, fuzzy memories of my dad as many do on this day but sadly I do not.
For most of my life I have been angry and really messed up because I didn’t have a protective kinda dad. That was not my reality and I’ve come to accept that more and more.
What I now believe is that a father is supposed to protect all his children from the harm of this world; not hurt them. He’s to love his wife and cover her so they present a solid unit as they raise their children in love and peace.
Sadly not all do!
My dad left my mom before my first birthday. There was a whole lot of cheating going on!
My dad would visit me off and on through out my childhood but never a solid person in my life. He had another family to care for. There are many hurtful things I could share about my dad but I chose not to.
I know what it’s like to grow up with no father, no protective love, no affirmation that I was ‘daddy’s princess’, no “I’ll protect you from the monsters that scare you”.
I had to learn to slay those lies of how unworthy I thought I was because there was no one to protect and love me as a father should. Those lies that told me I was no good, stupid, never amount to anything and more!
I’ve finally learned that even though it woulda been absolutely wonderful to have had a kind, caring, loving and protective father I did not! And I have survived!
I now know who my wonderful, loving, incredible Heavenly Father is and that I’m His Princess! That He loves me with an unconditional love. That there’s nothing I could ever do to earn His love, not cause Him to abandon or reject me.
I am learning how amazing He’s created me to be. I am learning He sees me as worthy and valuable and important and loveable!!
Oh yes, it’d be amazing to have a earthly father who’d hold me when I’m weeping and tell me ” it’s gonna be alright” but I don’t!
However I do have a Heavenly Father who knows it is and I chose to trust in Him! I chose to allow Him to heal all those wounds connected with my dad and to give me a hope for my future cuz I know He is always with me and will never leave me. He told me that in His Word!
In His Word are so many good verses that help me along my life journey. I’ve found great help and peace in times of dark trails! In His Word I find comfort and joy and everlasting love cuz He is Love!
No, I may not have had the opportunity many have of celebrating this Father’s Day with a beloved father. I do celebrate my Heavenly Father though because I know He loves me just as I am and encourages me to grow in His truth.
I also know He loves my dad!
Happy Father’s Day!