You are a beautiful person!
Embrace your uniqueness and soar!
You are a beautiful person!
Embrace your uniqueness and soar!
Recently, my husband and I were able to head to the Smokie mountains for refreshing and recharging! I so love being in the mountains! They speak to me and offer peace to my soul! When we were on top of Clingman’s Dome I read one of the signs that were posted. It spoke of how the Cherokee people sought healing in those mountains. I believe it is true!
I’ve often wondered if green is God’s favorite color. He sure did create many shades of it for us to enjoy! Or at least I do. I love escaping to the woods, getting out in nature, finding a safe spot to sit and meditate. I’ve taken to the woods for safety and comfort since I was a little girl needing to escape the ‘red-hot pain’ that threatened to engulf me from all the child abuse. And I still find great peace in the underbelly of the woods! I’m so thankful we have a wooded area on our property!
On our trip, we met some of the most intriguing people. I enjoy engaging with others, asking questions encouraging them to share their story. We met people from all around the world. One thing I took away from our trip was that people, no matter their skin color, just wanta be valued and loved and respected! That’s all!
How have we as a society gotten to where we are today? Fussing, feuding, fighting, blaming others all contribute to unrest and fear. These contribute to our problems, not offer healing solutions. I personally do not believe it’s a statue problem or even a virus problem. No, it’s a heart problem!
But who’s willing to sit down at the table and talk about our problems instead of destroying lives and property? Is someone willing to tear off the scab of old wounds to get down the root of the problem where it’s nasty and oozing with toxins? Who’s willing to listen?
Who’s willing to sit with that person until healing takes place? I wonder how many would do so.
Sadly, there are few folks who are willing to get down in the ditch of life to help others up. I’m so thankful to those who were willing to help me get up out of the ditch I was living in and embrace freedom in Jesus Christ! Without Him, I’m sure I’d be dead or living a horrible life!
Are you a ditch digger willing to help others climb out?! It does take all kinds to make the world go round. And one truth for sure we cannot escape is that when any one of us is cut, we all bleed red!
I can’t help but wonder if, during this lockdown, we haven’t been called to examine ourselves more closely. I know I have and there are numerous areas I’ve found lacking! How are we choosing to help others? How are we conducting our self? What are our values?
One area I have been studying is fear. Never in all my sixty years have I witnessed such a worldwide mass hysteria of fear! Fear is NOT of God! To me, it’s like common sense and thinking for one’s self was thrown out the window! We are told countless times in the Bible to ‘fear not’!
It’s sometimes hard to not give in to that spirit of fear when it’s raging all around you. Thankfully, when Jesus lives in us, we have much to hope in! We put our hope and trust in Him then fear has no authority or right to torment us! May we all gain that truth and put fear on the run!
It is my prayer that if you are struggling with fear you will soon find peace and comfort. That you will rest in Him and gain wisdom that will guide you on your path!
I wrote about my abuse in my Secret series and how I found hope in overcoming the effects. You can order this and the 2nd in the series, Secrets Exposed, from wherever books are sold.
I woke up recently with a sense of anger in my heart! As the morning continued, I enjoyed my coffee, yet I noticed the feeling still draped around my shoulders like a well-worn coat. So, I began to examine it! Being a seer-feeler I often sense the emotions of others! It doesn’t take me long to understand where this anger is coming from!
Children! Our precious and innocent children!
No! I’m not angry at them but rather, for them! What atrocities many are now having to endure! Not a single one of them asked to be born, yet because we live in a sin-filled world, they are having to pay the price for the evilness heaped on them by men and women all across our area and beyond!
This ‘pandemic’ we are now under has everyone running around much like I imagine Chicken-Little doing in the children’s story yelling, “The sky’s falling! The sky’s falling!” When in fact it is not!
The increase in child abuse is not just here locally but worldwide. “At least 165 countries have shut schools due to the COVID-19 outbreak, impacting more than 1.5 billion children who will have more time to spend online, leaving them prey to sexual predators, said the United Nations children’s agency (UNICEF). UNICEF estimates 1.8 million children are sex trafficked every year – but this does not include cybersex trafficking.” See article http://www.reuters.com
If possible, please monitor your child’s online presence. Many adults prey on the innocence of our children then pounce to abuse them!
Our children are now at home 24 x 7 due to schools shut down because of the C-virus. I ache for these kids. While I do fully understand the necessity to make this decision, I still can’t help but wonder if officials have truly thought out the long-term effects! I do pray there are plans in place.
When a child grows up in an abusive home, they often feel worthless which can haunt them for many years. I’ve fought this demon myself but it’s a lie! My safe haven was school! I knew I was safe there away from the poking and prodding. I also knew I’d receive at least one meal a day which wasn’t always true at home. I knew at school I didn’t have to worry bout strange men dragging me off to my own bedroom!
“If you’ve been told over and over again as a child that you are stupid or no good, it is very difficult to overcome these core feelings. As they grow up, abused kids may neglect their education or settle for low-paying jobs because they don’t believe they are worth more. Sexual abuse survivors, with the stigma and shame surrounding the abuse, often struggle with a feeling of being damaged.” See article http://www.helpguide.org
We have a responsibility to children everywhere! There is hope! It takes all of us working together for the betterment of all involved.
Don’t be afraid to check on your neighbors. It’s recommended to ‘social distance’ not ‘emotional distance’! Remember #faithtrumpsfear! Get creative! Drop off a bag of essentials like toilet paper, games, craft items, a special treat for parents, etc. This virus doesn’t have to stop us from having compassion and love one for another. Bake the kids next door a batch of brownies or cupcakes. Drop them off on the porch, knock then leave. Or toot your car horn to let them know you’ve just dropped off some delicious goodies and don’t forget to leave a note.
This is a time when we all can share our creative ideas on how to connect. God didn’t intend for us to live in isolation! Isolation is a tool of the enemy! It can cause us to get into stinkin’ thinkin’ which does none of us any good!
Please consider posting a sign at home or in your business “Stop Child Abuse” in honor of all our children. April is National Child Abuse Awareness month and as a result of the C-virus shutdown, we have not been able to host our annual awareness event. However, we are utilizing social media to continue to get the word out! No child deserves to be abused!
Together we will help “Spark the Change”!
If at all possible, please create a sign that simply reads, “Stop Child Abuse”! You can use blue ribbons, balloons, paper, etc. Hang it outside your business or home then take a picture of it. Use the hashtag #sparkthechange and upload it to our Facebook page. Let’s flood social media with a positive message as we each stand up for our kids!
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My goodness! What a crazy world we seem to be living in today, huh?!
I don’t think I’ve ever experienced such a level of mass fear and panic! We must continue to keep our focus on Jesus! When we read His word, there is a reference to ‘fear not’ many times. Let’s apply those daily!
So how ya doing with all this going on? Are you managing ok? Do you have enough supplies? Is anyone checking on you? Are ya goin’ stir-crazy? Could you use a good ole, long hug? I know…me too! I miss huggin!!
Most days I am handling it all pretty well. I do greatly miss being around people and huggin! I miss huggin! It almost feels like some form of punishment for something we didn’t do. Or even an out of control feeling over something we have no way at all of fixin! Whew….
I find myself wondering and actually am very concerned with how others are doing during this C-virus scare with their mental health! Your mental health has to do with your cognitive and emotional well being. It involves how you think, feel and behave. As a result of previous traumatic events, those processes could be skewed or messed up making it very difficult to talk about how we’re feeling.
Sadly in our society, it seems to still be a taboo subject to openly talk about mental illness. Yet, I wonder how many are suffering in silence? How many out there are walking around, well, now they have to stay home, who may be one traumatic event away from exploding? Or are a whisper away from an emotional breakdown? Or believe no one cares?
There should not be the stigma of discussing these issues!!
Many of us deal with mental health issues. Some of them could include anxiety, (there are at least 6 types of anxiety) depression, panic disorders, bipolar disorder, eating disorder, schizophrenia, substance abuse and more. The list is long. There is a horrible shroud over our society to openly discuss these and other issues. Why?
I dare say that if we were dealing with some form of cancer or had a broken bone or even an autoimmune disease we’d gain support and encouragement. Even so, we must press forward and continue to grow and thrive to the best of our abilities helping each other along the way.
With schools closed, I wonder how our children are growing mentally? Now that they are forced to be at home, in many circumstances, with their abuser 24 X 7, I can imagine the fear they may be living with daily! I remember when I was a child, the school was my safe haven! I hated when school was out and I had to stay home no matter the reason. I knew at school there would be no poking or prodding my innocent places like there often was at home. I knew I had a hot meal at lunch every day I was at school. Many times I went hungry at home. Even though I understand the reason behind closing schools, I still hurt for those kids who are experiencing more abuse because of this virus outbreak. So I understand when I read reports of an expected increase of child abuse as well as domestic violence!
I dare say we will begin to see a spike in mental health issues as well. We must continue to educate ourselves and pray for our neighbors, one for another. Dare to be the support someone needs but is so afraid to ask for help. We can come against this fearful time we are now experiencing!
I understand the fear that is covering our great land; not just on the abuse and addiction issue but the lack-issue. Now people are laid off from jobs so they aren’t able to provide for their families. Yes, there is the stimulus check most folks will receive and the unemployment insurance; yet, there are still families where those will not help with all the lay-offs, some even permanently.
May this be the time when we are truly the hands and feet of Jesus showing love and compassion along the way.
We are here if you need to reach out!
Feel free to contact us: Broken Pieces No More Inc PO Box 1373 Somerset, KY 42502
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Good day to ya!
How are ya doing during this virus scare?
Are you working from home?
Have you suddenly found yourself a school teacher?
Are you experiencing various emotions you hadn’t noticed before?
I’m pretty sure it’s normal!
I remember back in 2011 at the time when I was living in Joplin, Missouri when an EF5 tornado ripped through the city how our normal was forever changed. So many people underwent a life change after that! Whew! I know I sure did!
For me, I sought the assistance of a qualified, trauma counselor to help me navigate the changes my life was undergoing. It was hard in the beginning but as time went on I found myself growing stronger! That’s a good thing!
Anytime we walk through a major life-altering situation we will experience change. It stands to reason.
I have begun to hear folks say things like, “Well, I’ll be so glad when everything goes back to normal!”
I’m sorry but I do not believe that will ever happen!
Imagine you’re doing a load of laundry. You accidentally throw in a red shirt into a load of whites. Oh no! Now you have pink towels, undies and so on. You can’t go back and pull out all the red die.
The demolition crew comes out and tears the house down clearing the way for a parking lot. The bad thing is, the read the address incorrectly and tore down the wrong house! You can’t go back to the point in time before the wrecking ball hit that first board!
Once you speak those words, whether good or bad, you can not shove them back in your mouth and in your mind. Once released, they’re gone!
So it is with change!
Once we undergo change our world is forever changed! Now that doesn’t have to mean a bad thing necessarily. It simply means we must all learn how to ebb and flow with changes that life brings our way in a healthy manner!
Because of a very traumatic, violent childhood and domestic violence, I have fought the spirit of fear all my life! I’d say over the past five years or so I am learning more and more how to turn and face said fear!
Now, in the past, I’d begin to fear a situation, person, etc and end up almost paralyzed with fear to the point of not being able to make a rash decision. Fear will cause us to act and think irrationally!
In my mind, I would grow this thing I feared to a giant, extra-large size; a size so large that there was no way I could ever overcome it. Therefore, the spirit of fear had successfully grabbed hold of my mind, my thoughts and my actions. It had me in its clutches!
That is until I began to gain tiny victories in facing said fears and overcoming them!
Practice! Don’t become discouraged.
Stay in the moment!
If you’re a Jesus follower, keep your focus on Him for He will never leave you nor forsake you!
And, learn to train your mind to avoid what I call ‘stinkin’ thinkin’! It’s a trap every time.
We’ll delve into that more next time.
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We raise awareness of various forms of abuse and addictions as well as pointing folks to healthy healing options.
Praying many blessings over you this day!
It’s a brand new day! You’re alive! There is a purpose for each breath you take!
What’s your purpose? Do you know?
Maybe it’s to bring a smile to someone! Or share a hug! Or be an encourager!
Examine your perspective! Your attitude effects your altitude!
Have a very blessed day!
Wow…what an interesting time to be alive, huh?!?
Although some might not agree with me; goodness, I don’t always agree with me!
So how are you today with this new virus that has spread around the world and is the cause of so much shut down? And, get this…a new term for us, social distancing! How’s that for new phrases.
For me, it’s been challenging!
I’m not necessarily a people person in that I am the life of the party, so to speak. I do, however; enjoy going out and people watching, interacting with others and now, I feel that has been taken away from me.
Do I understand why?
Yes, I do but I miss people!
I, like so many of you, am trying to do what has been set down by our government officials in order to provide widespread protection against this virus. It is vitally important we all do what we can to help stop the spread of this sickness. Yet, at the same time, I believe we all need to utilize common sense!
I am personally relying a lot on my faith that God will see us through all this. I know He hasn’t fallen off His throne, therefore, I will choose to trust Him.
We all deal with it though not to the same extreme as everyone else. Some are rarely bothered by these emotions while others are often paralyzed!
It is my prayer that during this time we can all lay fear to rest and focus on faith and doing uplifting, positive actions!
I speak blessings of peace over you and your household!
May you daily sense Poppa God’s sweet presence!
We have stepped into the second month of a brand new year and a brand new decade. How exciting is that! The sound of that just seems to hold many new and adventurous possibilities doesn’t it?
Yet, how many of us are making healthy choices on purpose?
How many of us are determined to face the truth of our issues?
Many times I’ve pretended I was just fine, thank ya very much! When in fact I was dying inside and was silently screaming for someone, somewhere to please find me before I go under the tide for the very last time! But “No”! I couldn’t dare tell you my truth….even though I’ve read that the ‘truth shall set you free’. (John 8:32)
Fear and shame were my constant companions!
Fear kept me from reaching out for help; for letting others know, even close friends and family that I was in desperate need of help. Fear kept my mouth shut! I’d often been told as a child when being raped, “If you tell anyone I’ll hurt your mommy like this! Do you want me to do that?” Well, of course not!!
And the shame! Oh my goodness! The black, sticky shame kept me feeling so very unworthy; so extremely dirty; so unwanted and all alone! What if I told you my dark, dirty secrets? Would you still wanta be around me? Would you still wanta be my friend? Would you help me?
And that’s just how the evil one wanted it! I’m one of those individuals that believe we either follow good or evil. There’s no in-between! So, now in looking back, I can easily see where the devil was working through those around me to keep me down, to keep the evil thoughts flowing through my mind, to entice me to make unhealthy choices! For many of my years, I did not realize nor own my truth that I had a choice: That I could say, “NO!” I did not know I could!
The first time I remember having a thought that I could say ‘no’ was during an attempted unsuccessful sexual encounter in my late teen years. I declined a guy’s advances which he did not like at all. That was the beginning of my awakening from the deep slumber that had been injected into my being many years ago of believing I had to go along with what was done to me as well what was expected of me. It took years of counseling, lots of determination to overcome the lies and false beliefs of my past, many prayers and a lot of starts and stops! I had to choose to become healthy! Because I was worth it!
Now, I believe we can all begin in this New Year, this new decade, to make a difference for those around us, for those younger than us rising up to become leaders in the tomorrows by exposing once and for all those lies connected with mental health issues, that there should not be a taboo on this subject. Of course we need balance as we decide with whom to share our stuff. But we need not feel ashamed in doing so either! Nor do we need to shame others!
I firmly believe that it is now time to pull the scab off of our mental health issues and get to the root of the problem! Various forms of abuse are often the root of addictions and other unhealthy practices but we do not have to remain stuck in that lifestyle! There is hope and help! There is freedom and healing!
How I so wish someone would have been brave enough to step into my mess with me. Healing is messy and maybe not everyone is cut out to get down in the ditch of mess and help an individual. But, maybe we need to do so! We at Broken Pieces No More, Inc firmly believe that once we begin to examine and deal with root issues we’ll begin to see a more healed society. We believe no one deserves to be abused and that’s why we exist; to help raise awareness of various forms of abuse and addictions as well as providing healthy healing options.
I now have more peace and hope than ever! I believe you can too!
You can reach us at email@example.com or Broken Pieces No More Inc on facebook. Or drop us a note at PO Box 1373 Somerset, Ky 42502
I met a woman this week…some might say a cowinkidink but I think not for I don’t believe in those. She has haunted my thoughts daily ever since.
She and her friend were looking around and popped in my office wanting to know what Broken Pieces No More was!
So I quickly spout out my elevator speech in who we are and our purpose.
I saw a shadow flicker across her face when I mentioned we advocate awareness of various abuses…including domestic violence!
She shared she’d been out of a horribly abusive relationship for bout 5 years.
Before I could stop myself I asked her, “So what have you been doing for your healing in these 5 years?”
She stared me blankly and said, “Why, I don’t know!”
I love honesty!
I invited her to just come hang out if she wanted to, that we always welcome volunteers into our program. She was very interested!
That unexpected question has been hoovering at the peripheral edges of my thoughts every since then.
So my friend, I ask you this same question, “What are you doing to help in your own healing?”
Doesn’t matter who you are or what part of the journey you are on. Doesn’t even matter if your man or woman, boy or girl!
Each of us have been hurt in some way by some one!
And each and every one of us have an individual responsibility to heal from that hurt!
What are some healthy ways you are seeking more healing?
listen to worship music;
greatly enjoy being out in nature;
do lots of reading and check in with a few close friends to make sure I’m on the right track.
I also go for a mental health checkup on a regular basis.
#mentalhealth is just as important as any other aspect of our being!
I so wish I could convey to others how vitally important it is to heal from past wounds. If not, then that injured place will become infected and could endanger that individual to growing very ill or even death!
There is medical and scientific proof that our mental health effects every part of our being.
I know I personally have connected the dots in my own healing journey between stomach issues and my state of nervousness/anxiety with past traumatic abuse. Also my back pain with sexual abuse for many years.
As I’ve become more deeply involved in my own healing, I’m now taking back my power by acknowledging that abuse and dealing with it.
One powerful thing I’ve learned to do is to apologize to the little girl within me!
No child ever wakes up one day and declares, “I do believe today is the day I want to be yelled at, beaten, raped and more”!
It was not my fault I was abused!
And I am most certainly NOT my abuse!!
I am healed and being healed!
If it weren’t for my personal relationship with Jesus I seriously doubt I’d even be alive! But I am!
So, I ask you again, “What are you doing to bring about your own personal healing?”
I’m praying for you this day!
You can read more about my childhood in my first book in the Secret series, Secrets in the Holler.
No one deserves to be abused!
I’d be honored to share with your group, organization, church, etc my amazing journey and transformation!
There is hope for healing!
You can check out the faith based nonprofit my husband I formed on face book, Instagram and Twitter at Broken Pieces No More.
As always, you’re not alone!
I’d love to hear from you!
Wow…so 2020 has started off with a bang! (No pun intended.) Wars and rumors of wars!
I’ve watched the news reports and read posts on social media. Many, if not most, seem to be proclaiming gloom and doom.
Where’s the positive?
Now I’m certainly not one to stick my head in the sand…for one thing I prefer balance. Yes, I’d like to know what’s goin on in the world but not to the point where all the news I follow is so fear based!
I do use the off button on my remote!
Where is it written we must constantly walk around with a fear mentality?
Fear is not from my Poppa God!
All this media hype does nothing but get folks stirred up believing whatever they hear or read instead of searching the truth out!
Don’t be like sheep being lead to the slaughter.
Study to show your self approved.
And be happy!
You and you alone control your happiness! No one else!
Turn off the news.
Play a game.
Go for a walk.
Take a nap.
Get out in nature.
Purge any unwanted or needed items.
You are the one in control of your destiny!
Determine that 2020 is going to be an over the top amazing year for you! Then take steps to do so!
You’re always welcome to join us at Broken Pieces No More Inc as we ‘Spark the Change’ for families.
We are a faith based ministry dedicated to raising awareness of various abuses and addictions as well as providing healthy healing options.
You can find us on face book, Instagram and the Twitter.
You are not alone!
Rise up oh weary one and let your light so shine!
Pray a covering of peace and protection.
So how are maintaining your peace with all the fear and negativity?
What do you do to stay healthy and balanced?
Looking forward to hearing from you!
Merry Christmas to you!
I had wondered if we’d have a white Christmas but where we live…nope! Way too warm and that’s nice too!
I have done very little for Christmas this year. It’s simply been way too hard, too stressful to do otherwise. Oh, I tried to decorate. Had big plans for doing so. Even had my wonderful husband to bring my numerous totes of decorations to the house from storage and I even pulled some things out. I do have a few snowmen sitting about the house but that’s it.
I’m not playing scrooge or anything negative. I simply do not have the emotional energy to get caught up in all the hype of the holiday. I find myself struggling…a lot…this year with the expectations of my getting into the spirit of the holiday when I just don’t have it inside.
I refuse to get in to the whole gift giving until credit cards are maxed out! That’s crazy!
Oh, don’t get me wrong! I do celebrate the birth of my Lord and Savior for without Him I know I would not be here. I’d be dead or in an insane asylum somewhere. No, I know I’m ridiculously blessed and I’m oh, so grateful for the birth of Jesus!
This year has been way more simple for me!
Not too long ago my mother passed. Six months ago if someone had told me I’d be reacting this way I’d of said they were nuts! My mother and I didn’t have a healthy relationship at all in any area! She was one of my main abusers. But God!
You see, when she’d been placed in a nursing home and Hospice took over her care, she had days where her mind was clear and we’d have time to talk and laugh and make things right. I was able to hear the sweet words from her of ‘I’m sorry’! What a joy! And I hold fast to that!
I’m grateful for learning how to forgive her and all those who hurt me! Forgiving is freedom from being a victim and stepping into being an overcomer!
I’m realizing not only am I mourning her passing; I’m also mourning what I now know I’ll never have! I’ll never have a healthy mother daughter relationship. I must allow that dream to die.
But God! He gave me a sweet gift of those few days with my mother, before she passed, of who I believe was her core being before the demons of her own abuse took over her soul. I am now able to see her through a different lens, through a different set of glasses which enables me to extend grace and mercy to her.
With my mother’s passing I’m finding myself adjusting my sails a bit differently on this sea of life. I’m evaluating and reevaluating my current relationships. I’m seeing more clearly some areas of my life that I now know I must let go of: Those familiar belief systems that were put in place when I was raised in a very dysfunctional, abusive home. Those familiar thoughts that still plague my mind; that feel like falling back into a mound of warm, cushy pillows seemingly all safe and sound. But that is a false belief!
And it’s scary to address those lies from my past, to confront their limited mortality! And it’s my choice as to whether or not I wanta address them, to send them packing and scurrying into the night. It’s my choice if I wanta live in freedom or continue to live in the small sphere of life around me when in fact, when I do choose to let those lies go, when I do choose to expose the lies to the truth, then I will gain a larger sphere. I will gain truth! And the truth will set me free!
I know it’s a process. I know it takes time, lots of hard work and reflection as well as letting go!
So this Christmas I began a new tradition by making an honorary donation in my mother’s name to Broken Pieces No More, Inc for the work they do to help raise awareness of various forms of abuse, addiction as well as providing healthy healing options.
I’m also learning more to be kind to me and not expect so much!
Healing happens! Yet healing is messy!
If there were such a thing as a perfect Christmas it would one where all four of our children and their children along with the rest of our family were together to celebrate our savior’s birth. Until then I continue to pray for healing and His love to transform us all.
I wish you a Merry Christmas, Happy Hanukah, and happy holidays.
Feel free to contact BPNM at firstname.lastname@example.org or PO Box 1373 Somerset, Ky 42502.