Take Time for Your Healing

Healing takes time whether it’s a physical or emotional or spiritual healing. 

No two people heal at the same rate. 

Never allow anyone to judge or condemn you because you aren’t healing according to his or her time table. 

It’s your healing journey! 

As you travel on this path make sure to schedule self-care days. 

Write letters to help express your anger or hurt or disappointment at whomever then burn the letters later.

Journal. Write long posts or mere bullet points. Just writing it all out helps on your journey. 

No matter what be kind to yourself! 

You are worth the effort! 

Don’t rush the healing. 

Sometimes a trigger will bring up an old wound you thought was healed. It’s ok. It just means there’s more work to do. Yet, there’s so not as much healing that needs done as there was before.

Keep progressing forward. Keep listening to your inner voice. Keep healing.
#secretsnomore

#Warriorrisingup

#Iamworthy

#myhealingmyjourney

Stop the Bullying

Words can hurt at any age! 

I remember my school years being made such fun of…the slurs…the laughs…the harshness…the cruel pain! I tried to pretend it didn’t hurt but it did…a whole lot!

It hurt but no one seemed to care!

I grew up hearing hurtful words from those who were supposed to have loved me! 

I’ve been in relationships as an adult where hurtful words were flung at my wounded soul.

Verbal abuse is what it’s called! And it’s wrong!

You are responsible for what you say and do and how you treat others. 

I wonder how many of us would be brave enough to stand up if asked, “Stand up if you were ever hurt with words; made fun of; sexually assaulted;  bullied in school, etc?

I’m standing up!

In my opinion,  if we could truly see the heart of those around us I dare believe we’d treat each other with a great more compassion! 

I want to say to you, “I’m so sorry you were hurt!”

May any hurt within your soul begin to experience a deeper healing today than ever before!

May you experience compassion and mercy as never before!

No one deserves to be abused! 

I am so deeply grateful for the healin that has taken place within my soul. You can experience that same healing! Just ask me!

Together we can indeed make a difference! 

#secretsnomore

#Iamavoiceforthevoiceless

#stopbullying

Dream Your Dream

Today I anxiously awaited the FedEx truck to pull in my driveway! I was so very excited! ! Not long ago I heard a vehicle pulling in and knew they were here! I could hardly contain myself!

Boxes and boxes of my newest book! 

Secrets in the Hollers, a story of hope!

Do you need hope?

Are you tired of fighting what feels like a never ending battle?

Are you overwhelmed? 

That’s how Kenzy felt. She’d battled for so long yet somehow she knew she must keep on going! So she did.  And she became an overcomer! 

You’ll need to buy a copy to find out what it is she overcomes and how this latest battle almost cost her her life!

My friend, I encourage you, never let anything or anyone steal your dream!

I’ve dreamed of being an author all my life and now it’s happening! 

I plan to release book 2 of the Secret series, Secrets Exposed, in early 2018.

Dream your dream wildly!

Today I Am Thankful 

Watching it rain cats & dogs from the comfort of my warm home this morning reminded me of just how much I have to be thankful for in my life! 

As I looked through the rain covered window I was ever so grateful for our warm and dry home!

What a blessing to not need to worry about which area of the roof might soon give way to the nagging drip drip drip of a leak. I have lived in those houses before. 

I’ve also lived in houses where the warmest place was hunkered up near the coal stove or hovering over a floor register. 

Today I am snug, dry and warm. 

I lack nothing of which I truly need!

I am greatly and amazingly loved!

I have much to be thankful for!
Do you?

Have you paused yet today to acknowledge those often overlooked blessings and given thanks?

Guard Your Thoughts 

Happy Friday to you!

What are you choosing to do today?

Work? Vacation? Stay-at-home-day? 

No matter what you do, you are the one in control of your day. 

Be aware of your thoughts for they will fuel your day and tomorrow you will reap the harvest of those thoughts whether they be fruitful or barren!

Make it a good day!

Share a smile!

Give a hug!

Be an encourager!

Stay positive! 

Love yourself!

#Warriorrisingup

Sins of the Mothers…. Forgiveness Happens

The totes were stuffed full of almost every imaginable thing. She’d been goin through them one at a time for sever all weeks because doing so all at once was way too daunting. It wasn’t easy digging through the envelopes of paid bills, doctors information, letters from social security, bill collectors, cards, letters from friends and family and more.

She’d recently sorted through the tote that held the cherished antique photos of her grandparents, two, one from their early days and a much later one after life had it them hard. These photos would soon hang on her wall in special remembrance. 

Today she’d opened the tote that held her very own baby clothes wrapped up in paper and placed in a plastic bag as if trying to protect them. She also found two of her baby bottles, one glass and one hard plastic. Both still had the black ring and stopper though no nipple. And her baby shoes. An old cloth diaper and diaper pins. Oh and she’d been so delighted when she pulled several articles of clothing from her early childhood years. Only one piece had been store bought, the others either hand sewn or machine stitched.

And she even found her baby book with information of her birth. That was a special treasure! There was her name written in pencil by her mother all those many years ago.

This discovery was shocking to the woman who was now going through these items tryin to decide what to keep and what to toss. Truthfully and sadly, this woman all her life had wondered if her mother really loved and cared about her. Now that truth seemed to point in the direction of affirmative. 

During the reading of old letters the daughter had discovered secrets her mother shared of her many years of sexual abuse by a close family member. This had been the hardest for the daughter to read and absord about her own mother. The daughter had herself suffered various forms of childhood abuse at the hands of this one perpetrator. The cycle had continued. 

For many years the daughter had fought with her mother, mainly wanting, no needing her mother to love and protect her from those pawing, prodding hands but that never happened. Now the daughter better understood that very possibly the mother simply did not know how to do so. Her own mother hadn’t protected her.

These new revelations softened the daughters heart towards her mother. Oh, no, it certainly didn’t excuse the mothers liability in not having fully protected her daughter. It did, however, help the daughter better understand her mother: A woman who at a young age was raped by this man and the abuse continued many years!

Now her mother resides in a nursing home, often times drifting into her own world. The daughter prays that the world her mother may be a part of is one full of sunshine and wildflower and butterflies and laughter. 

Finally the load seems somehow lighter that she, the daughter, had been carrying concerning her mother and the lack of love she’d felt all her life. Now the daughter was more able to release that burden and let it drift away. 

Now even more healing could take place within the depths of the daughter. Now peace had more room to reside within the daughters heart. 

Forgiveness was at work here.

Be the Difference 


In these days at hand stress is a major factor for so many of us. Fear is churned out on the news daily for any who watch to swallow and become infected. Doubt and hopelessness are quick to follow.

But you don’t have to go down that path.

You do have a choice.

Choose to be kind to yourself. 

Use healthy boundaries being aware of what you listen to, watch, read,  etc. Negative in….negative out.

You can rise above what’s going on and round you and make a difference. You can be that catalyst for dramatic change.

#bethedifference

#makeadifference

Verbal Pollution &          The Blame Game

There is so much verbal pollution nowadays! It seems to be everywhere, well almost everywhere. Yelling ! Fighting! Protesting! Blaming! Yet no one seems willing to sit down and take the time to listen.

What might happen if we truly decided to stop talkin and ask our fellow human how he or she was doing, how they were feeling?

Maybe that’s why we have two ears and one mouth: To listen more than we talk!
Wow what a concept!

Another thought: Why does it seem that the majority of folks are givin the media so much power? Have we forgotten to turn it off? Who said we ‘have’to listen and believe everything they say?

Have we as a society, as individuals, decided the media/ internet knows what’s best for us? Are we like sheep, being conditioned to acceptance of the foreseeable slaughter? I truly hope not!

Have you noticed that over the past 12-18 months news people have begun to use voice persuasion to get you to “Come here and look at this”? Because if you miss this gastly news clip of some horrible scene you’ll not be informed! And of course the media knows what’s best for you, right!?!

Who controls the media?

Why are we giving our power away to those we don’t even know? Do these people pay your monthly bills? Then why do you listen so intently to them daily to what they say? Then you get all worked up because you don’t agree?

Have we as a society simply out bred common sense?

Why does it seem so many of us believe we must take our required dose of depressing, hate filled, fear based news daily!

Why? What is it producing? More of the same because like produces like kind!

Just turn it off!

Maybe, just maybe, we can turn things around by sharing good news, by paying the positive forward, by sharing a smile, by choosing to encourage those around us. It takes less energy to be kind then it does to produce hatefulness.

We seem to wanta blame everyone else for our situation rather than taking responsibility ourself! What one thing are you doing to bring about healthy change? Or are you just grumbling and complaining?

It amazes me how so many blame our president for many situations in our country and even around the world. Do folks not realize the president’s seat is a position that is controlled by many? This position is not merely one man operating his own personal agenda! He has many ‘advisors’ both here and around the world.

I do believe we are to pray for our president and all leaders. Maybe if we all prayed as often as we grumble and complain about him and other leaders we’d truly see greater healthy change.

I am gravely concerned for our next generation yet I refuse to give up on them and live in fear! Yep, Jesus is coming back one day, maybe sooner than most expect, but until then, I will continue to love others…..and nope, I don’t tolerate just anything either. …not supposed to….I can love you but I do not have to agree with you!

Blind tolerance is not smart. You do have common sense. Tap into that. Listen to that still small voice. Chose to do what’s right. Follow truth. Be kind on purpose. Share a smile. Listen more, speak less. Know you are profoundly loved.

We are not in this world alone. Engage with others. Put your phone down and look around. It is still a beautiful place to be!

One day we all will answer for our own decisions. I’m so very thankful for His amazing grace!

Choose on purpose to be a light in a dark world. Share a smile. Extend a helping hand. Determine to make a difference. Set a great example. Be kind.