#secretsnomore

I am pleased and excited to announce that my latest book, House Full of Secrets: Human Trafficking and Redemption, is now available in paperback and kindle. Any of my books may be purchased through Amazon.

This was a very hard book to write as I shared a great deal of my own personal story. And in it I share parts of my soul with you. Parts of my soul I’d never want anyone to see; yet, I truly believe that I need to share my truth in order that others may know the freedom and hope I now experience.

I shared secrets.

My book shares secrets. Deep, dark, evil ones!

Those secrets I’d been forced to keep as a child ‘or else‘.

Secrets I am finally finding my voice to speak out!

Proverbs 31:8-9 tells us to speak out for those who do not yet have their own voice with which to speak.

I am choosing to lend my voice to any one who needs it!

I speak about all forms of child abuse: neglect….my emotional and mental needs were neglected as well as often times I went hungry although we had plenty of food.

Physical abuse where I was hit either with switches until my little legs were bleeding or beaten with a belt, of course, where no bruises would show.

Verbal abuse was a constant of hearing what a horrible person I was, that I wasn’t ever wanted and how my mother so wished I’d of been a boy or never even born, called all sorts of vile named and more!

Sexual abuse has always been a part of who I am. Or rather who I was!

My mother and grandmother trafficked me out to men in the community to ‘help pay the monthly light bill’. This went on until I was eleven. It ended when I put a shotgun to my grandmother’s forehead threatening to shoot her if anyone ever touched me again!

The sexual and physical abuse stopped but the verbal/mental abuse grew even worse!

Now I have way more peace and hope than ever before in my life. I know Whose I am and I also know I’m okay!

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I have gained a tremendous amount of healing for which I’m eternally thankful.

Life is so good!!

I have risen up out of the ashes more incredible than ever before.

I long to see others who are walking wounded gain their own personal healing and freedom.

This is a new and exciting time in my life. One where I am stepping out of my comfort zone doing things I’ve often dreamed about. Like speaking to anyone who’ll give a listen. Traveling and sharing my story so others can step into his or her own freedom!

This is a brand new path. I hope I’ll see you along the way.

I am available for speaking opportunities.

I have one local at a Celebrate Recovery spot at Faith. Hope. Love. Church of God in Somerset. Then I will be speaking in Winchester, Ohio at Daystar Christian Center on August 15th. And on October 9 and 10th I’ll be speaking at Lake Road Baptist Church in Morrow, Ohio.

I am available for conferences, workshops, clubs, schools, churches, organizations, etc. Wherever there is a need to help others share their secrets! I will be your voice!

What secrets have you been holding?

I’d love to hear from you.

You can let me know here or email me at pamelajwoodall@yahoo.com.

No one deserves to carry a burden of guilt and shame from being forced to keeping secrets!

There is freedom!!

I’m happier and more content now than I’ve ever been in my life!

Life is indeed good!!

Blessings to you this day!

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#faithoverfear: 3 points to squash fear

Hey guys!

Hope your Friday morning has started off well. Here it’s still early. The sun hasn’t yet popped up over the Eastern hill out from my window. I do so enjoy being able to look outside as I write. Makes for lots of inspiration.

Have you ever had a morning after?

A well known reference would be like a morning after a big drunk the night before. Or a morning after a huge event you’ve been planning for months and months.

That’s how I feel this morning!

No! I don’t have a hang over! Praise God I’ve been clean and sober since December 1989! Wow…31 years! How stinkin’ cool is that! To God be the glory cuz in my own efforts I’d of failed long ago!

This week the governor of our state has issued more mandates. It really doesn’t matter if I agree or not. What does matter is the effects of his statements on the people of this great state!

We human were not created to be secluded, isolated! We were created to fellowship one with another.

In Acts 2:44 ‘All the believers were in fellowship as one body, and they shared with one another whatever they had.’

It’s hard to share with anyone when we’re isolated and shut away from others.

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But that’s not my main concern this morning. That’s not why I feel so heavy hearted!

No. What I’m sensing this morning is another wave of heaviness!

Being what’s called a ‘seer/feeler’ I often sense things, feel things, more easily than some might. It makes life challenging at times. Like this morning, when I wake up and have this heavy feeling.

So many are walking around afraid with this new virus that is now spreading around our world. However, the Bible tells us plainly all through out it’s precious pages to ‘fear not’! Do we take that as sound advice? Or do we cower back in fear lashing out at anyone and everyone who does not do what we believe they should be doing, just as we’re doing?

This morning I feel a heaviness in the spiritual atmosphere. So many are afraid!

I myself struggle with fear at times but I know it’s a lie of the devil. It’s one of his top tools in tearing folks down. Fear also brings along with it many other little demons that try their hardest to infect people, much like a virus.

Fear breeds insecurity, chaos, anger, a demanding attitude, gossip, emotional reactions, a do it my way cuz I’m right attitude and much more.

That’s not what God has called us to do. We’re commanded to love one another! In John 13:34-35. Is that easy? Well, for me nope! But I do choose on purpose to follow hard after my Poppa God. I know what it feels like to believe I’m not loveable and also to live in constant fear! That’s horrible.

I wanta share His love, goodness and mercy! I want to help ease this spirit of fear!

What can we do to ease that fear even a little bit?

  1. Be kind
  2. Offer an encouraging word
  3. Make a personal connection

We do not have to stoop low and carry this heavy burden. God’s word tells us His yoke is easy, His burden light in Matthew 11:28-30!

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Isn’t it great knowing we’re not alone and that someone is always ready and able to help us carry such a heavy weight!

My friend, I am praying for you this day. That you will find His peace which passes all understanding…that’s in the Word too!

I’d love to hear from you. Shoot me an email at: pamelajwoodall@yahoo.com

Have a great day on purpose!

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3 Steps Overcoming Fear NOW!

It’s a sunny morning. My desk sits in front of the window facing east here in the office. I have the curtains half-way pulled to block the sun from shining directly in my eyes. I will not complain, though, for I know there are days ahead where a layer of thick clouds will block out the sun. 

And how often that can apply to life around us!

On days like today, the sun is bright, and we can see clearly. I don’t know bout you, but there are those times if I go for days not seeing the sun, I begin to get depressed. I learn to change my perspective and try to focus on the positive around me, then even though I may not see the source of that bright light overhead. 

No matter what will happen, the sun will never stop shinning. However, there will be many times that storms will invade our lives and the clouds will try to block out the sun’s warm glow!

I grow concerned for our country, yes, even our world right now!

Just yesterday, the governor of our state decided to implement yet more lockdowns, mandates and such. This causes me great concern especially for the mental health of children and adults for we were not created to stay cooped up! Nor were we created to live with such fear!

I try not to bash anyone, for that does no good. And yes, a thousand times yes, I do pray for our leaders as we’re told in God’s word. And when my mind gets all jumbly with the ‘what-if’s’ and the fear, I must take control of that thought pattern and choose on purpose to put my trust in God. It’s simply not always easy!

Fear is a very real and present danger!

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In my 60 years, I have never seen fear so rampant! Nor the ease of which this fear seems to infect those around me! One can not turn the news on without being bombarded with some form of fear-mongering! Anxiety will negatively affect the body as well as twisting one’s emotions totally outta sync. I believe that the evil one uses his fear as a massive tool to cause folks to wanta cower down and hide!

The Word of God says in 2 Timothy 1:7 – 

For God hath not given us the spirit of fear; but of power, and of love, and of a sound mind!

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For me, I’ve had to practice taking down those thoughts of fear! In fear’s place, I put peace and hope. I’ve had to learn to take my thoughts can see how well they line up with Philippians 4:8.

In Philippians 4:8 we read, ‘Finally, brothers and sisters, whatever is true, whatever is noble, whatever is right, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is admirable, if anything is excellent or praiseworthy, think about these things.’

 We do have a choice! We do not have to live our lives in fear, cowered like some beaten animal or person in the corner curled up in the fetal position! That is NOT who we were created to be!

No! If Jesus Christ lives in you, then you have His same anointing! 

You have the power over the enemy!

You need to start practicing that more and more each day!

So, here’s what I encourage you to do!

When you begin to realize you’re feeling afraid!

Three steps to help overcome fearful thoughts.

  1. Check your thoughts.

>If you need to, then write down at least three thoughts you are having.

2. Compare those thoughts with Philippians 4:8

  >Are those thoughts noble, pure, praiseworthy, etc? If not, then get rid of them! 

3. Change your activity. 

>During this craziness of 2020, I’ve realized when I get to thinking negative, fearful thoughts, I need to change my trajectory. 

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Get up! 

                        Do some jumping jacks! 

                                    Go for a walk! 

 Brush your teeth! 

                        Clean the fridge out! 

                                                Make your bed! 

                                                            Write a thank you card! 

 Balance your checkbook! 

                                                Sweep the floor! 

                                                                                    Play with the kids! 

            Sing!

                                    Dance!

                                                            Praise the Lord loudly!

 Anything to redirect your mind onto something positive!

You can overcome fear with His truth!

You are not alone either! That’s another huge lie the devil wants us to believe! Many near you are struggling as well. Reach out, if possible, to others and offer encouragement.

I’m here to listen to your story! You can reach out to me at: pamelajwoodall@yahoo.com

I am praying for you this day!

Massive blessings!

What will you chose? Good? Or Evil?

G’day to ya!

I do hope your day is starting out well or has been a wonderful one depending on when you read this post. It’s mid-morning for me.

I look out my eastwardly facing window watching the brisk wind chase the fallen leaves all around the yard. I see the small whimsical windmills spinning wildly in my flower garden. My plants have seemingly died but I know they are merely resting until the spring up next year. When the new season arrives, I will feed them a good diet that will enable them to grow strong and thrive!

What are you feeding on?

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Hasn’t 2020 brought with it a boatload of multiple issues we’ve had to learn to deal with, learn new coping skills if you will. I personally struggle with a lot of the changes that have hit our society hard. Even so, I will not give up on the greatness of our nation. No wait a minute! The greatness of humanity!!

You see I am a firm believer in the saving grace of Jesus Christ and Him crucified on the cross for you and for me! Without Him I would not be here, and I know that without a doubt! I would either be dead or in an insane asylum because of all the horrors I’ve lived through.

The key word here is… ‘lived through’!!

And we also have choices every day to make that will assist us in making it through each day.

We have a grand choice laid out before us!

  1. We can give into the fear mongering by watching new 24 x 7 and reading every post on social media.
  2. We can say, ‘enough is enough’ and turn it off choosing instead to gain fresh insight and peace!

We take charge of just exactly what we chose to feed on during the day!

I am not saying to go off and do whatever to whomever you wish. No, that’s not right either! We use common sense and stay safe!

There are two sides: Good vs evil!

This is nothing new.

It’s been that way since the beginning of time way back in Genesis chapter 3. Check it out! It’s in the Word!

So, it is with what we choose to feed ourselves day in and day out!

It’s a choice again!

  1. We eat good, nutritious food.
  2. Or we eat junk food that is dead and does us not one bit of good!

You can often tell what kinda diet a person has by what comes outta their mouth!

Proverbs 23:7 (NKJV)

 For as he thinks in his heart, so is he. “Eat and drink!” he says to you, but his heart is not with you.

I firmly believe there is a remnant on this great planet watching and strategizing on doing the Father’s work to bring His Kingdom on Earth as it is in Heaven. I assure you, there is no virus in Heaven! Nor is there any fear or anxiety! Those are tools of the evil one.

What do you think might happen if we as a people of all races, shapes and sizes, colors and beliefs suddenly began to rise up and say, ‘Enough is enough!’ We chose love and peace and humanity!

Oh, to many, maybe even you who are reading these words, may think this is a pipe dream!

I’ve even heard Christians say things like, ‘Well, the end is near! Jesus is coming soon. Ain’t much to do now but wait!’

I say to that, ‘Hogwash’!!

We are called to get off our blessed assurance and be about the Father’s business.

I know! I know!

What about those who do not believe in Jesus.

That’s totally your choice. The cool thing about Jesus is that He most certainly won’t beat you over the head to chose to follow Him. He loves you no matter. But your final destination may not be to spend eternity with Him if you chose otherwise.

Stop! Think! Examine! Research! Read! Strategize! Believe on Him! And breathe in His peace and comfort!

I’ll admit that during this year my anxiety has spiked numerous times. Yet, my trust is in the One who gave me life!  I am choosing to let go and trust Him! I encourage you to join me!

What an exciting time to be alive!

If you get really freaked out, I’m here to listen! Drop a line here or shoot me an email at: pamelajwoodall@yahoo.com 

I’d love to hear from you!

You are not alone!

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I’m praying for you!

You Were Meant for Love

Kari Kobe has a song out, The More I Seek You, that totally wrecks me!! I listen to it over and over.

We were all created for LOVE….to receive love, to give love! We were created with a deep need to be loved and accepted!

So many times that doesn’t happen in our lives. Maybe we had dysfunctional parents or care givers who were never taught this love thing therefore they did not teach their children how to love.

Have you ever watched an innocent child? They just love…openly…without hesitation. That’s simply how they were created!

But…..

Life comes along and many times stirs things up on the inside….changes our belief system…causes us to put up these gyhugic walls we think is for our protection. Funny thing bout walls is that yes, they will offer a form of protection keeping the bad out. They will also keep the good out and….they will keep us in!

For many years of my life I now realize I’ve lived my life behind these walls hoping for protection yet denying myself thw very thing was created for: Love!

I’d learned very early in my childhood that I was a bad person, dirty, nasty, unlovable….or so I thought! I was listening to and believing those lies!

I was wrong!

I was none of those things!

I’ve been learning I am the opposite..I am amazing…I am unique…I am loveable…I am worthy…I am able to give and receive love!

My beloved, my husband, has worked hard at helping me to tear down my walls. And yes they leave me very vulnerable but I am now feeling way more than ever before.

Love is real! Love can and often does hurt! Love is fulfilling!

You were made to love!

More importantly, you were made to be loved! You are lovely and so worth being loved!

You are uniquely you! There is not another person like you now or ever!

I encourage you to begin today tearing down your walls to let thw light of love in! You don’t have to live a lifeless life…real, true, life changing love!

You are worthy!

You are loved!

I’d love to hear your story!

I am praying for you!

Drop me a line at: pamelajwoodall@yahoo.com

You Are Worthy!

Sometimes it’s a challenge to remember I am worthy…I am valuable…I am loveable…I am good enough!

Sometimes the lies from my past spoken over me by those who were supposed to have loved and protected me…yeah those lies try really hard to drill down in my brain and mess me up.

Haha…I’m learning to recognize them sooner rather than later and kick em to the curb!

We all have days like that!

I’m learning the value of quality self care! I’m learning to give myself permission to be still and heal!

You my friend are so worth the effort to be good to you today!

Take a walk in the woods.

Go for a bike ride.

Read a book.

Listen to music.

Dance like a wild person.

Take a nap.

Say “no”!

Do anything just for you!

You are worth it!

I’d love to hear your story.

Drop me a note at: pamelajwoodall@yahoo.com

You can follow me on face book at: Author Pamela Richards Woodall.

3 Ways for Important Self-care

Don’t forget to take care of yourself!

Learning to love myself has been a great challenge for I was taught from birth I was worthless and unloved and unlovable!

Ahhh…but I am discovering what a lier all those folks were! However I’ve also discovered it’s so much easier to listen to and believe those lies than to expel them and believe God’s truth about who I am!

Chances are the same holds true for you!

I often ponder on why we’re wired that way…why does it seem easier, less hard work, simpler to take in, absorb, allow those lies to become a part of our innermost being?

Maybe one reason is that if we are not taught from birth of our worth then we will have a stronger perpensity of believing those lies. And seemingly those lies are always sprinkled with a bit of sugar, a smidge of truth that will help the vile taste of the core lies go down better.

But we do not live in a Mary Poppins kinda world. The world in qhich we live in today is full of rage and hate and longing! Yes I believe we’re all, each and every one of us, are all longing just to be loved and accepted!

Accepted in the beloved! Loved for who we really are deep down on the inside we may carey a different belief.

But wait….if you knew the real me you might not like who I really am. If you knew just how frequently I fight fear or unworthiness or self doubt or those dark thoughts of suicide you probably would never wanta talk to me again.

So I’ll throw on my pretty, happy mask and I’ll paint myself up just so you’ll accept me and I’ll buy the push up bra and I’ll have my skin baked to a golden glow and I’ll get many of my body parts pierced or tattooed and so on and so on!! (Guys do the same thing!)

But I digress….

I’m learning to love and appreciate my own quirkiness. I can’t help it if you don’t! That’s on you not me!

I need to love and appreciate me so I can rise up and be what I’ve been called to be. Same as you do!

How can we truly learn to love others if we first don’t love our self!?!

3 Ways I’m Learning to Love Me

1. Listen to my inner messages

I’ve come to realize there’s no way I’d speak to another person as I have myself! So I’m learning to catch these self defeating words quicker and replace the negative with a more positive, truthful message!

2. Forgive Me Quicker

Oh gracious this is a hard one for me!!

I’m still punishing myself over something that happened almost 40 years ago. I know its wrong but have felt I needed to do this!

The Word tells us to be quick to forgive. Well I’m learning that applies to me the same as anyone else!

3. Do Something Daily for Me

Doesn’t need to cost anything nor take a lot of time. It is important that I chose on purpose to daily show my inner self, the little girl within, that I value who I am!

Maybe I take my first hot cup of coffee outside and breath in the new morning.

Maybe I take an afternoon nap.

Maybe I indulge myself with a good chocolate treat.

Maybe I linger longer in a warm hug from my beloved!

Whatever it may be I need to do one thing for me daily!

I encourage you to begin today learning to love and appreciate you! You are worth it and so very important!

I’d love to hear your story!

Drop me a line here.

You can also follow me on Facebook at: Author Pamela Richards-Woodall

Have a wonderful, love filled day!

This is my story of how hope wins!

You are worthy!

You….yes you…are such a beautiful individual!!

You have purpose and value!

You have a great destiny!

You are precious in His eyes!

You were born with a purpose, a reason!

There is One who longs to walk with you!

He can give you peace in a chaotic world!

His sweet love!

Surrender.

No fear.

Purposeful.

Changes.

Great love.

Some Days…..

Some days are like….

Storms Rollin in!

Drama…..

Conflict…..

Physical pain…..

Disappointment…..

and so on…..

Other days be like….

Not all days are the same. They come. They go.

One thing for sure is to learn that this too shall pass. It may sometimes take more than a day but it will pass…it will fade away!

I’m so thankful in the middle of my yulk days and my good days I’m never alone!

He never leaves me nor forsake me.

I must learn good self care and shore up my healthy boundaries!

I Used to Hate Mother’s Day

I used to hate Mothers Day! Until this weekend when Poppa God spoke very clearly to me that it was actually a choice I had! We all have choices to make.

Why did I hate Mother’s Day?

Because I felt I’d been cheated!

I felt I’d missed out on the fairy tale of having that sweet experience of having a loving mother to protect me from all the bad things in this world.

I did not have that at all so for many years I’d felt sorry for my self! Ahhh poor little me!

Yes, it did and has greatly hurt that I didn’t get to have that better experience; however, please allow me to share three (3) important things my mom did teach me!

1. Look for Hidden Treasures

My mom is now in a nursing home so being an only child I’ve acquired her personal effects. Last fall I was going through one of her many totes of stuff and found one stuffed full of my things!! Yes! My things!

There were baby bottles, a cloth diaper with diaper pins. Many little outfits… some of which she’d sewn herself from the feed sack material she got with huge bags of feed for the goats she raised. Those goats helped provide meat and milk for her, my grandmother and me!

And several pairs of my little shoes. There were several of my toys and books. And gobs of pictures! From birth all the way into my young adulthood. Oh goodness! I’m looking forward to creating a scrapbook of her memories with me!

Those my friends were hidden treasures I will forever cherish!

I grew up thinking my mother didn’t love me because of all the abuse that happened to me. But I believe she loved me the best she knew how, from the way she’d been taught.

Sidenote: I’ve gained more truth down through the years of how she too suffered abuse as a young child for many years!

2. Perseverance is Key

My mom was a hard worker. She worked cleaning peoples houses and often times being treated disrespectfully! But she worked. She also went back to night school when I was around nine years old to get her GED. Later she went on to obtain her CNA training!

She helped around the old home place raising huge gardens, raising goats and chickens all the while with very little help or money. Yep we were poor but I lived through it and learned a lot!

She kept going!

I have learned it takes hard work to overcome the lies of an abusive childhood!

I did not give up!

3. What NOT to do!

I was about 14 years old. We were standing in the kitchen. It was summer. I’d asked to go hang out with some of my friends. She told me ‘no’ and I smarted off so she hauled off and slapped the fire outta my left cheek.

I remember so clearly thinking that when I grew up and had kids and a family they’d always know I loved em!

In looking back there are many choices I’d made differently in my motherhood, yet I did the best I knew how to do! Without a doubt I know God helped me to grow!

I did not pass on that generational curse of abuse!

I did not withhold my love!

I did not not tell my son how much I loved him and how proud of him I was and am!!

I am choosing to celebrate today being a momma to a fabulous son and all the spiritual children Poppa God’s blessed me with!

I’m choosing to celebrate the mother I have dispute all the imperfections!

Because of her I am alive and experiencing the amazing life I’ve been blessed with!

I have an over the top husband and family!

I am one majorly blessed woman!

I pray you mothers today no matter what your circumstances will have a sweet peaceful day!